Wednesday, October 31, 2012

These Are The Times To Think

We have all had those people hurt us time and time again, yet, somehow we always let them in. Maybe it is time to say no. Think before you let people back in. In no way is this say to not forgive the person who wronged you, but keep them at an arms length. There is a special bond called trust, one which was broken. It should take more than, "I am sorry" for them to get back into your heart and be involved in your life. Time and time again girls (not discluding boys, but girls are the bigger offenders) get hurt by people- and all it takes is, I am sorry and they instantly let them back in. These are the times to think.

Is it worth it to you to totally give your heart and trust to someone again, yet only having it end up getting hurt again? No. Of course not. Give it time. Let yourself heal. Do not set yourself up again, and give someone so much trust. It isn't worth it to either of you.Trust is something that is earned. Think about your relationships. Be careful with whom you place your trust in. You cannot burn a bridge and put it back up in the same day. There needs to be a plan of action to rebuild that bridge- an apology  followed by time to slowly build that bridge- trust- back up. Bridges don't pop up in a day. Some take weeks, some take months, some take years. Slow it down, think before you let yourself into a situation again. These are the times to think.

This is not directed primarily at relationships between boys and girls- although it certainly applies. Girls can be mean, and so can boys. This applies to all relationships, including between parents and children. You cannot expect as the child to break a rule and then be good for a few days and expect to gain back trust. You must earn it. Often we try to blame the other person for the issue in the relationship. This is false. It takes two to tango. You do not have a relationship without two people, and you do not have a problem without two people. It cannot simply be the one person. It is your reaction to what the person does that can be a problem. Do not make a mountain out of a molehill. These are the times to think.

"Happiness is when what you think, what you do, and what you say are in harmony."-Gandhi

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